Why Are Women's Issues So Taboo? #TabooTalk #Apex #Giveaway #Review

*InControl Medical has allowed me to talk freely about their APEX Pelvic Floor Muscles strengthening device. Thank you InControl for being REALLY good sports about my humor and for partnering with me to start the conversation. All opinions are my own.

It absolutely drives me mad that so many women's issues are so taboo to talk about! A man can talk about his sex life, farts, ass, boogers, bodily fluids and just about anything else in mixed company. No Problem.


If a woman mentions she is on her period, has cramps,  or pissed herself while coughing or laughing, she's completely breached the TMI threshold a million fold.


We ALL have the same issues! Sure, some have taken the medical high road to a menstruation-free and temporary urinary incontinence-free life, but the fact remains, at one time in EVERY woman's life, she deals with the same annoying issues. Issues men know nothing about. How could they, woman don't even feel comfortable talking about these things to other women!

I'm here to tell you, I have spent the last three days annoyed that I feel like crap. I'm achy, crampy and at any moment, could snap. I can't write a good post or article to save my life. All I want to do is lay in bed, eat chocolate and sweethearts and play games on my phone, or read books. And sleep. Definitely, sleep.

I don't want to make dinner. I don't want to deal with bath time.

In fact, I don't want to deal with sh!t.

I want to sit on the couch and have a big period pity party.

But no. I have to suck it up and suffer quietly. I have to act like nothing is wrong and perform like a BOSS.

Because that's what women do.

We bust ass, get the job done, and crawl into bed at night, worn ass out.

Never to tell a soul...

Of course, sometimes we don't want to tell. I know the first time I almost peed on myself, thanks to pregnancy TRASHING my pelvic floor muscles.

I'd heard how pregnancy and natural childbirth can leave a woman with weak pelvic floor muscles. Those weak muscles lead to leaking.


Leaking that lets loose when you laugh, cough, sneeze, exercise, lift something heavy.

Bottom Line: Crap Pelvic floor muscles lead to pee.

But since I had a c-section, I thought I was free of that fear.


Did you know that childbirth is the number one reason a woman’s pelvic floor is weakened? The pelvic floor is a group of muscles at the base of the torso and responsible for supporting the internal organs. When the pelvic floor becomes stretched or weakened, a woman may experience bladder leakage when coughing, laughing, sneezing or exercising.

It's crap.

Actually, it's not crap, and thank God for that! Can you imagine if we crapped ourselves every time we laughed? Somehow, peeing on myself seems like an OK thing now.

It's sad we keep all of these things in, because I bet if we could talk more freely about what ails us, we would be happier, and sharing the best tips and tricks ever!

For example: Recently, InControl Medical reached out about reviewing their APEX device that helps relieve stress urinary incontinence (SUI) by strengthening the pelvic floor muscles. I thought, YES!  I need to talk about this.

How have I never heard of something doctors have been prescribing for years to help women overcome SUI that has just recently been approved by the FDA for sale "over the counter" or basically no doctor needed to get it?

I'll tell you why... You all, when I watched the video for it, I nearly died! I blushed, laughed out loud, then called FTD in to see what this company was asking me to review.

All I could think was, NO. FREAKING. WAY!  (While laughing my ass off)

Here, you have to watch this!

Can you imagine how in the world this company is going to market it to the general public?



The only thing that's more taboo then talking about periods and peeing on yourself, is playing with yourself!


This thing is Awesome!  I'll take two!


OK, I'm terrible. This is a real medical device helping women with real problems. Damn societies taboos!


All joking aside, even though APEX must work like a freaking charm since doctors have prescribed it for years, and the FDA has even given it their seal of approval, no way is THAT going to be easily marketed main stream!

Hell, I'm not even sure COSMO magazine has the balls to publish an article on it. Can you imagine..."Add lubricant...insert the device into the... Pump it up real good... then turn it on and increase the stimulation..."

I personally don't mind if women talk about their period, pee slips or any other issue. Most likely, I share the issue and love to know I am not alone.

I get that we live in a "man's world" and admitting to a week in the $h!ts with Aunt Flo will show weakness. I get that admitting to peeing on yourself some how adds an age and medical issue to you that is hard to admit to. I get that admitting that you are exhausted at the end of the day and throwing in the towel before it's time, will put you in jeopardy of losing your Wonder Woman cape.

But maybe, the next time you are dealing with an issue you will open up to a friend, and see if it doesn't somehow make you both feel better. Or when your girlfriend comes to you feeling crampy and mindless, you give her and hug and say, Damn that Aunt Flo! She can be such a bitch!

Maybe, just maybe, if we support each other, talking about what ails us won't be so taboo. We can share our tips for cramps, and turn each other on to super Vibra.... er... pelvic floor muscle straightening devices that keep the pee in!

What do you think? Do you like that it's taboo to talk, or do you wish women could admit to their women's woes more freely?

In honor of getting the conversation started, and to show that they are great sports, InControl Medical is giving ONE lucky reader an APEX device! Sign up for your chance to win the device below.

And for everyone else, $35 off the cost of the device plus free shipping. Use MBAM15 at checkout. To buy now, click here!

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