It turns out, when I said:
"I'm just going to come right out and say it, I have created a bedtime monster. I play into every bedtime whim my evil genius toddler can think up. I just wanted him to go to sleep! I kept thinking if one more book, or sip of water, or trip to the potty, or hug and kiss, or handstand while balancing the cat on my foot was going to get my kid to go to sleep, I'd try it."
My community was shouting, ME TOO!
While, I'm not so happy that other parents are lying next to their child and "pretty much play dead for 20-45 minutes while my toddler does everything he can to drive me nuts." I am relieved to know I'm not alone.
So, for those of you who were shouting ME TOO! I thought I would let you know how I was doing at controlling the bedtime chaos and the lessons about myself and my toddler I have learned.