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We've Crossed The Potty Training Line. #OnHisTerms #EpicFail

Well, my friends, we are less than two months from Ollie's third birthday, and much to my sadness, he's going to ring in three rocking diapers. Ok, maybe there's still hope for some sort of Divine holiday miracle, but I'm pretty sure I have very little to do with it, since the damn toddler has the ball in his court. Or should I say, diaper.

I'm so sick of trying to walk the fine potty training line.

You know; Be firm, but not too firm.

I've been working that angle for two years, and I'm here to tell you; there is no, "Hey, kid, go use the potty. Of course, only if you want to.", and then POOF he's pooping.

NOT EVEN!



EPIC FREAKING FAIL!

I've learned that if you want to potty train a dragon, stubborn mule, toddler, you need to get a game plan and stick to it.  And you HAVE TO DO THE FOLLOWING:

1. CONSTANTLY say, "Oi. Kid. Potty?" (or something like that) to your toddler ALL DAY LONG!

2. Offer a potty break at every seedy toilet you pass.

3. Bribe the shit out of your kid. I know parenting experts frown upon that, but those experts are wiping my kid's ass.

4.  DO NOT let them see you cry! Have patience like you have never known. You CANNOT get mad or frustrated. Potty training has to be the most delightful pain in your ass you have ever experienced. Think: Oh, honey, it's ok you peed all over the place; including me.  It's not your fault your daddy tried to teach you to pee standing up when mommy wasn't around to threaten his life. I'm proud of you for trying.

5. It's a job. Potty training is work. Hard laborious, annoying, frustrating mind-numbing anxiety-inducing work. But thankfully, like any job, you get paid... in not buying diapers or wipes again. Or so I'm told. I've also been told I'll be wiping his ass until he's five regardless of diapers, but I can't think about that right now.

So, what's holding us back?

The kid.

The kid is holding us back, because now that he has an opinion and agenda, potty training isn't very high on his priority list.

 If I ask him if he has to go, usually he will go. Otherwise, he's not volunteering. Unless, I let him run around free balling, and then he will usually go on his own.

Usually.


Potty Training is like being stuck on a train from hell driven by a toddler. My kid knows he has the ball in his diaper, and I'm just a pawn in the game.

Dammit.

Parenting.



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5 comments:

Amanda Matheny said...

Trust me, you're definitely not alone on that one. My son is 3.5 and still won't tell me when he has to potty. If I take him every 45 minutes or so, he goes, but he almost never says he has to. He also has never pooped in the toilet yet. I am having a hard time with it but working on it with him every day. I'm going to share this post on my website's fanpage, Crafty Frugal Mom so that my readers can see this too. I have several friends who are parents of toddlers that can probably relate to this, and I have heard that apparently boys are harder to train than girls. I've also heard it's better to train a boy sitting first, then do standing once he has mastered the toilet. That is my plan with my son, although I am a single mom, so there's no male role model to teach him the ins and outs of standing, so getting to that point will be, interesting, to say the least! Good luck with your little one and hopefully yours and mine both will be potty trained soon!

Jess said...

My little girl just turned two on November 23rd, and people have been asking me if I'm potty training her yet since she was one and a half!!! She has no desire to go potty yet. Sometimes she'll sit, but mostly she won't. She just wants to play. I can't wait until we don't have to buy diapers anymore. But I don't see that happening any time soon :-/ I hope it happens soon for Ollie, though!! Oh, and did FTD really try to teach him to pee standing up?! Lol

April McCormick said...

@Amanda Thank you!!!

@Jess We started trying potty training right after his 1st birthday. This was my MIL's doing. She told us FTD was potty trained around one. And, YES!!! Ollie tries to pee standing up. I told FTD he can clean the bathrooms until Ollie gets the hang of it. SO GROSS!

Uplifting Families said...

My youngest was a little over 3 when he finally grasped it. I knew he was ready when he would tell me that he pooped his pants. I took the diaper off and let him run around naked for a week. Third day he asked me too put a diaper on him, I told him to go get on the potty. He went number two and that's all it took. They have a fear of poop falling from their butt. It's strange but it's true. They are so used to it being squished against their bum in a diaper.

Unknown said...

I'm not looking forward to potty training at all! Mine is turning one in a month and I can't wait to stop buying diapers. My fantasy is that she's a tiny genius and magically just figures it out.