Can't Beat 'Em, Buy A Bed Big Enough To Fit 'Em... #TheToddlerWon

Remember when out of nowhere FTD brought home a toddler bed and I threatened him with a change of address to a cardboard box in the backyard? Well, I'm about to make good on my threat...

Four months ago when FTD decided it was time to transition the wild-child from his crib to a toddler bed, I knew it was a bad idea, and I was right. Normally, I would be gloating all over the place about being right, but I can't because I am too tired. Four months ago also happens to be the last time I had a good night sleep, thanks to a toddler sleeping on my head or handing out choke hold hugs, headbutts, and round house kicks, ALL NIGHT LONG!

Clearly, the crib to toddler bed transition was a complete epic fail in my house. If I could do it all over again, I would leave Ollie in his crib until he was too big for it, then buy him a full size bed to make the transition. As those of you know who have been following me on my ridiculous adventure of transitions and sleep training, the only person to sleep in the toddler bed is ME!

Yes. Me.

After a few nights of constantly being head butted, kicked, poked and slept on, I take refuge in the toddler bed.

It's OK, laugh at me.

I know there are those of you out there shaking your head about me not getting a gate or a lock to keep him in his room.  You're right.  I know I should be tougher, but there's always this one thing holding me back, besides being spineless, it's those sad eyes staring at me asking the million dollar question:

"How come you get to sleep in the same bed with daddy, and I have to sleep by myself? I don't want to sleep by myself."

Oh. Um...

Good Question...

Well... son... because... um... because I said so? Because everyone sleeps better that way?

Ugh... I get it.  I suppose if I was a toddler, I would be pissed too if I had to sleep in my room by myself. It must seem really crappy that mommy and daddy get to share a bed.

Still, every night when he comes into my bed I carry him back to his bed until either I can't stand it anymore, or it's past 5am and I know if I take him back, he will stay up. This happens, every night.

Every. Damn. Night.

Ain't nobody got time for that!

I've had it with the constant sleep battles. For over two years I managed to keep Ollie out of my bed, and in what seems like overnight, now I can't get him out of my bed! After complaining to anyone who'll listen, I have come to the conclusion that I'm not alone; most everyone has a child in their bed by morning.

I've decided the only way to really get a good night sleep, is to get a bed that fits everyone comfortably. Forget, can't beat 'em, join 'em, It's, can't beat 'em, buy a bed big enough to fit 'em!  

And so there you have it, the toddler has finally won.  Rather than up-size the toddler bed to a full bed, FTD and I are going to spring for a King instead!

On to the next battle...

Please share your story of how your transition from crib to toddler bed is going, and how old your toddler is/was when the time came to make the transition.

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Shelly said...

We are going through the same thing! Since moving DD to a "big girl bed" last month she has not slept in the bed through the night once! I'm so tired. We need a bigger bed too. Actually we just need a new bed in general. Let me know what you get!

Anonymous said...

We do the gate at our son's bedroom door. He cried the first few nights, but now he stays in his bed. I can't wait to hear how the King goes over. My husband and I are in the market for a new mattress too. I'm watching the black friday sales hoping for the deal we can't pass up.

Good Luck!

Nathalie said...

Amen. After 5 months of battling my 3 year old EVERY night, one of us now just goes and sleeps with him after he wakes up, usually 2 hours after he goes to bed. He went from a crib to a full size bed at 2.5 when he outgrew his crib. He slept in his bed wonderfully until just after his third birthday, then he got up 2-30, yes, 30x a night looking to sleep with us. Our queen size bed doesn't comfortably fit the 3 of us. We will upgrade our own bed to a King soon as well. I tried the gate one night, he busted it down. I couldn't do the lock. And this too shall pass, we all have enough other things to battle with the littles, no sleep is no joke. Enjoy your new bed!

April McCormick said...

Sounds like we are all in the same boat! @Nathalie, I agree about not using a lock. That just screams CPS at my door. And I know the door gate would get smashed.

Unknown said...

Have faith...I too couldn't stomach locking my daughter in her room and listening to the screams and tears; my husband did it one night for 45 minutes and I almost had a nervous breakdown. This started back in July--the hopping out of bed every two or three hours. But more recently, we are down to once a night and usually due to a full diaper. "It's a phase!" is my mommy mantra--this too shall pass. As I always tell my husband, sixteen year olds don't sleep with Mommy and Daddy!

Uplifting Families said...

I am thankful that I never had this issue with my kids. My youngest stays in his bed all night long.

Anonymous said...

Ugh. I haven't slept without a child in my bed for 10 years! Take it from a mother of four, invest in a great king or even California King (my dream bed) because it doesn't matter how awesome your child's bed is, yours will always be better to them.