1/26/14

Alright. It's Time To Come Clean...

Some days I think it's laughable that I am a mommy blogger.  I still cannot get my head around it. When it comes to parenting, I don't know what the hell I am doing. Sure, now that I am the mother of a near two-year-old, I can tell you what to expect the first six weeks, but when it comes to parenting a toddler, I don't have a damn clue what I am doing! I am not full of great tips, I am full of great lessons learned on what not to do! I feel like I need to put a disclaimer at the top of my blog that says, I have no clue what I am doing when it comes to parenting, so... proceed with caution.  

I just feel like such a fraud being a mommy blogger. Aren't they supposed to be full of great tips and recipes? My idea of cooking almost always involves a roll of aluminum foil and two dishes to clean at the most. So when Parenting.com named me a Top 10 Mommy Blogger of 2013, I kept asking, "Are you sure? Have you read my blog?!" I just still do not see how... 

From one post to the next, I am all about HOLY CRAP!  My Kid just did that? How? I spend more time amazed by what a my child is capable of.  And now that he can talk... HAHAHAHAHA!  I spend most of my days either laughing at him, or shaking my head at him.  It's a wonder that I have not bitten my tongue off from trying not to laugh at his ridiculousness. And for that matter, it's a wonder he has not laughed himself into a coma from me being his mother...

Mission Accomplished

While chatting on Twitter to a long time reader and friend, we came up with the first-time parenting mantra, "We can do this shit! Hard as hell, but we can do it!" That's the truth of it! Parenting is hard as shit, but somehow we, I, stumble through each day. I am a huge fan of the 'Do What You Gotta Do' method of parenting, and not obsessing on raising my child under a strict and structured household. In fact, here are a few atrocious things I let my son do this weekend that no doubt a true child-rearing professional would shake their head at...

1. Graze like cattle. I have a bowl of grapes in the refrigerator for my kid to eat whenever he wants, and when he asks for a snack, I give it to him. By dinner on Saturday he barely ate. Surely, that is bad, but I did it. No apologies.

2. Run into the living room and fly onto the couch. Sometimes I even chase him so he gets going really fast and takes a flying leap. He loves it, and so do I. Yes, in my house, sometimes the furniture is for jumping.

3. Rather than make my under two toddler sit in the shopping cart at Costco, I let him push that shit. 

4. Both breakfast and lunch were spent in front of Micky Mouse Club House this weekend, while FTD and I sorted through his toys for charity. That's right, I let the TV babysit my kid.

5. I cannot think of a number five right now, but I know there is one. I bet there are 20 things I did 'wrong,' but as far as I am concerned, they were right for me and my kid at the time.

Everyday I feed, clothe, bathe and love the shit out of my kid, and accept that everything in between is a constant circus of laughs, setting limits and learning lessons for both of us.  I am clueless and constantly second guessing my parenting.  I knowingly do stuff that I know is wrong, like the TV watching and the grazing, but dammit I have to chose my battles.

Bottom Line: If you are a less than perfect parent looking for affirmation, you have come to the right place. If you are just as scared and confused as I am and need to know you are not the only one, then you have come to the right place. If your kid is constantly testing the crap out of you, and you need to know your kid is not the only one, then you have come to the right place. Conversely, if you are looking for sound profession tips on parenting from someone who has their shit together and knows for sure what they are doing, then you most certainly have not come to the right place. I'm the other kind of mommy blogger.



Two confused parents=One amused baby Hopelessly we are trying raise a baby who is clearly smarter than both of us. April is an award-winning writer and blogger. Her work has been published in over ten countries and four languages. From books to newspapers, to print/online magazines and everything in between, you can find her work. For more on April, Visit AprilMcCormick.com

12 Comments:

Alissa said...

You are doing a great job April!! The way I look at it... James is/was our practice child hahaha. Micah will be the most we behaving polite little boy because we did all our screwing up with James.... I agree though most days I have no clue what I am doing. And when I see other people's polite little childern not throwing food at dinner time, not throwing tantrums, not throwing toys, and being perfect angels I am CONVINCED I am huge screw-up of a parent. But then I remind myself that I have a toddler and this is perfectly normal.

Natasha said...

Absolutely!! Who cares? I hate how so many people often feel it is their duty to tell everyone else how things ought to be done. The best advice I ever got - do what's right for you. Parenting is a big adjustment, and no one ever teaches you how to do it, we all have to figure it out on our own. I think that's what makes a great mommy blogger. sharing the real experiences. You totally deserve to be on that list! =)

Kim said...

I just want to say thank you and that you are awesome! I am so so glad that I found your blog and you totally deserve to be on the list! My little man is 18 months so I can completely relate to what you write. You and FTD have brought me so much laughter and it is so refreshing to see other moms like you go through the same things I am. We might not be perfect, but we are all doing the best we can and we love our children so that's what is most important. Keep up the great work!! :)

April McCormick said...

Practice Child! HAHAHA! That's one way to put it. I keep telling FTD we need to start a savings fund for Ollie's Therapy. God knows he will need it with us raising him!

April McCormick said...

Do what's right for you is most def the best advice! Thank you for your kind words Natasha. It really means so much to me!

April McCormick said...

Wow. Thank you. I get so worried that I am this crazy person for writing a blog about 'parenting' everyday, when I am sure my parenting is laughable at best sometimes! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!

Christy Garrett @ Uplifting Families said...

I feel like this post shares the real truth about parenting. Parenting is very hard and I too am not perfect. I come up with good ideas to share on my blog but I do some of the things you listed. :)

Unknown said...

I am thrilled to bits that you have made it on to the Top Mommy Bloggers list, you 100% deserve it. Your humour, writing and fun laid-back approach to parenting are a breath of fresh air in a world where so many people take life far too seriously. YOU ROCK LADY! I adore you April - xxxxx

Layes Landing said...

"Love the shit out of my kid" WHAT ELSE MATTERS?? You are awesome!!!

April McCormick said...

Thanks B! Nothing. Well, and surviving the toddler to teenage years.

April McCormick said...

I adore you too Lottie! BIG TIME! Thank you... xx

April McCormick said...

"Some Things I Listed" Not all? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I should think that list is a got to for creating proper toddler behavior! Thanks Christy, your blog is one that I am talking about, so well thought out with great tips!

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