FTD/FTM dynamic. Play/Panic

Every year our city has a big Halloween parade that is full of scary floats, crazy clowns, The Ghostbusters Mobile and even a truck full of zombies trying to escape. I am not a huge fan of Halloween or scary stuff, FTD is. He thinks the Halloween parade is the most fun. So much so, over the past three years FTD, and even his family one year, have come to the States just to see the parade, and then stick around to celebrate Halloween, since Australia barely acknowledges the holiday.  This year I was apprehensive about going because of Ollie. There were so many reasons I was against it that I am going to have to throw out a list...Just like I did for FTD...

1. The parade started at 7pm, which is when Ollie beings his bedtime routine.
2. Ollie refused his late afternoon nap so I knew he would get fussy.
3. The parade was going to be crowded, pushing a stroller through would suck.
4. There was going to be very loud music, lights and crazy clowns with chainsaws, which is way too much for even big kids. (Like me!)
5.The parade goes for 1.5 hours, no way could Ollie survive that long without a meltdown.
6. It's a big scary Halloween Parade, not suitable for babies!

I made this list very clear to FTD.  FTD just replied with, "Balls! Ollie is going to love it. Where is his Yoda costume?"

Reluctantly I told him where the costume was, and followed my boys out the door...

Within a few minutes Ollie started crying and screaming.  I immediately busted out the, "I told you so!" on FTD.  He took Ollie out of his stroller, gave him a couple of raspberry kisses to calm him down and onward we went...

The rest of the parade played out like this.

Ollie and FTD played and yelled and laughed while I panicked.  Damn it, I suck!  I was so sure Ollie was going to crumble that I spent the entire time waiting for it. Preparing for the worst. The worst never came.  Not even when the Hellraiser float came out with screaming, loud music, plumes of smoke and crazy clown people running into the crowd.  FTD and Ollie were having a blast. 

Fist in the air screaming in excitement 
at the Hellraiser float. 
The chainsaws were blazing, 
smoke machines polluting the air, 
screaming children everywhere, 
it was pure Halloween parade controlled chaos, 
FTD was in Heaven.  

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME???  I don't want to be that mom. I don't want to be so full of unnecessary anxiety that I miss out on fist pumping with FTD and Ollie.  How come now that I am a mom I am a panicky freak? I seriously need a chill pill.

I just want so bad to be the best mom with the best baby.  I couldn't help but think I was making a foolish decision by letting my baby go to a crazy loud parade that started at his bed time.  But, I wasn't making that choice alone.  FTD was sure it was going to be fine, and that I was being over protective. He was right, I ended up not having faith in both my son and husband.  I hate to admit this, but sometimes mommy doesn't know best...

Bottom line: I totally missed out on a fun night because I let myself become completely consumed with unnecessary anxiety.  On the bright side, I learned a valuable lesson early in Ollie's life. I vow to in the future wait for the meltdown before freaking out.  Or really, have more faith in my son's ability to handle life without my holding him close in a quiet room. 


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Kitten said...

Oh girl -- I know. I know. I used to insist that Nathan get to bed at an early hour and that he never miss a nap and that everything be PERFECT. Now, with Noelle, if she gets a good nap per day, I'm like, "ACES!" Also, celebrations are good things. Sometimes, Ollie will cry (prob first Fourth of July) and sometimes he'll love it, but just go with them. They create memories. I promise. You probably won't remember getting him into bed at a proper time, but you'll never forget him dressed as Yoda at a parade.

(Also, if you go with the special occasion such as this with grace, you can bring down the hammer much harder when FTD wants Ollie to stay up for some dumb reason.)

FirstTimeMomandDad.com said...

So true Kitten. So true. It is all about the memories.

Unknown said...

Lol kitten I love the logic in your last paragraph!
I know what you mean, it's hard to pick when to berelaxed super cool mum and when to be firm mum.
I'm a bit jealous of the kick ass Halloween parade, although my first instinct would also be that it's not for babies. Glad it worked out well though!

Unknown said...

awwwww- the boys are adorable, and the control-freak anxiety? It'll probably linger around for the rest of his life, lol, but boys will be boys and we'll adapt more... I hope!

FirstTimeMomandDad.com said...

I know... Kitten always has the best logic! I thought of you atb the parade. I should have taken video. I'll see if I can find a link to mail to you.

Thank goodness you agree that it's not for babies. I guess it proves that if daddy thinks it's fun so will baby.

FirstTimeMomandDad.com said...

they are adorable. My sweet husband is just a kid sometimes, he was jumping around and dancing and thought he was at the greatest party on earth. Ollie just bounced along.

I suppose we will just have to join em' becuse I have quickly learned we can't beat em'

Layes Landing said...

Right there with ya!! Very sweet to see Dad and son enjoying themselves.

FirstTimeMomandDad.com said...

I do love watching them. I don't know who enjoys their time together more. I smile from my heart.

Unknown said...

Lol yes well I suppose it shouldn't surprise anyone that daddies and babies find amusement in similar things! ;-)

Things That Happen Everyday said...

I'm so like that. I panick for everything. My husband is always telling me to chill and let the kids have fun but I CAC'T. I worry all the time that something bad is going to happen and in the process get myself all stressed out and the kids aren't having as much fun with a crazy mom yelling at them for everything they want to do. I'm trying to relax a bit every time we go out but its really hard. I just want to protect them from everything. I can totally relate to you. I guess its just the way mothers are. Hopefully we'll get better as the years pass and won't drive our kids and husbands crazy along the way.