8/17/16

Is Your Type-A Parenting Style Ruining Your Family-Life?

It's official; I've cracked. Dropped My Basket. Lost The Plot. A few bricks fell out of my load. It's all my fault.

My type-A ways are screwing my life all up.



For the past four years, I have had lofty goals of being the perfect parent, wife , homemaker, and writer. In the process, I driven myself mad.

Thanks to the back-to-school madness, looming holiday season and some strange summer sadness,  The. Plot. Has. Been. Lost.

Recently, while looking at my endless 'to-do' list, I felt so overwhelmed. I had no idea where to start, so  I tried to prioritize. I started to realize, half of the stuff was unnecessary.  All the unnecessary cleaning, organizing, hand holding, emails, life-sucking friendships, and ass wiping have to stop!

After four years of trying to provide the cleanest, safest, most organized environment for my family, I've learned three things:

1. I do a lot of unnecessary crap.

2. I'm so crazed about getting things done the second they need doing, I jump WAY too soon.  What's more, I get pissed at my husband for not jumping first. #FAIL I'm so bad about it, FTD has a joke with me about the Dishes Police, and how they don't exist.  He thinks I am afraid the dishes police will come get me if I don't wash the dishes right after dinner.

3. I need to cut a ton of bullshit out of my life. Starting with life-sucking friends and ending with not being so anal about keeping my house spotless.

Here's the thing, I am a great mom. I know that. And while all the extra cleaning, organizing, planning and prepping are great, it's not all that necessary.  Most of all, the time I waste overdoing it,  I could be spending with my family.

I've started to let things slide, like cleaning the kitchen.  I seriously used to clean it spotless after making each meal. That could be 5 times a day. WTF???

No more obsessing about my son's routine, how much tech-time he's had and if I've played with him enough today to be a great attentive mother.

I'm not going to let life sucking friends monopolize my time. They can drive someone else crazy. I can't let their problems take away from my life and family-time.

Needless to say, I'm relaxing and not over thinking EVERYTHING anymore. Ok, so I do still kind of worry, but I really want to stop being so crazed about being the perfect everything. Especially, before school starts and I overextend myself to the point of wanting to throat punch the PTA princess.
These days with my family are so precious, if I don't make some changes, I will miss out on the best moments.

Are you Type-A Parent, too? What about you? Are you overthinking everything?  Or better yet, have you started to let go too?


In addition to being the founder of First Time Mom and Dad, April is an award-winning published writer. Her work has been published in over ten countries and four languages. From books to newspapers, to print/online magazines and everything in between, you can find her work. For more on April, Visit AprilMcCormick.com

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