There's no two ways about it, Co-Parenitng Requires a Cohesive team.
Unfortunately, in the beginning, I thought a cohesive team meant my husband understanding my ideas, plans, and goals. Then, implement them according to my specifications. I'm the mother, I have the God given gift of Mothers Instinct! No way could he know better than me?
To my horror, my husband didn't agree. He had his own plans and ideas, and every intention of implementing them as well. To add insult to injury, his ideas were born of a different culture. His Australian ways versus my American ways, led to many a disagreement.
Needless to say, the first couple months of our son’s life were not met with a cohesive parenting team. Quite the opposite.
Yes, I was doing the same to him, but I felt completely justified. I was the one with the all-important mother’s instinct!
After about a week or two of letting the hubs do his thing, I started to see the clear difference between my methods and his, and how they both worked.
I was very soft and wouldn’t let Oliver shed a tear. I’d jump at the first whimper. I lived according to the hours and minutes of the day, to keep the ever important 'routine' going.
The man didn’t care about the routine. He wanted to play and laugh and be silly with our son all day.
It didn't take long to realize, not all of my ways were the best. Maybe I needed to relax a little and let dad do his thing. Unquestioned.
We have a very long and winding road of parenting ahead of us. Knowing we can depend on each other and share the ups and downs equally, is the key to making that road as smooth and enjoyable as possible.