7/26/12

Who are we to judge?


I have always lived by the philosophy, Live and Let Live.  I don’t like being judged, so I don’t judge.  My second philosophy; Do unto others, as you would have done to you.  Life is way to short to spend it wrapped in others lives.  Who cares what someone does if it doesn’t affect you in the slightest?  Get over yourself. 

So again I ask, Who are we to judge? 

I’ll tell you who we are to judge, we are mothers. We are passionate new mothers striving to be the best mother in the world… no galaxy! We all want to believe we are doing the very best we can, making the very best decisions possible and providing the most nurtuing and safe environment for our child. Anyone doing otherwise or standing in our way, naturally would piss us off!

I used to want to punch the, “know it all” mothers on the pregnancy forums in the nose for being judgmental. They always had something self-righteous to say. I would see their responses and think, “who the hell are you to judge and be so nasty?!” Well, I suppose now I get it.  I don’t agree with that behavior, but I get it.

I hate to admit it, but since the birth of my son, I too have become very judgmental.  I see mom’s doing wrong and think, “shame on you!” I talk to moms who are trying their own methods that I think are completely Whack-O, and think, “shame on you!” I hear stories on the news about bad moms and dads and think, “shame on you!” I see children in stores or on the street going bat shit crazy, while the parents are self absorbed… “SHAME ON YOU!”

Here is the main difference between me and the forum know it alls, I only think it.  I would never, ever, pass my judgment on. I currently have a friend who is raising her child in a manor I just do not agree with, at all.  It kills me to keep my mouth shut, but I have to, I have absolutely no right to tell a mother how to raise her child.  

I am not proud of this behavior, but I realize since becoming a mother, I have a new found love for every child and their well-being.  However, unless a child is in danger, I will keep my big fat self-righteous mouth shut! 

All that being said… Yes, here comes an evil rant!

OH MY GOODNESS!  PEOPLE!  Really? Holy crap you need your head checked!  Seriously, who does that?  OH, eff me, really? I cannot believe you call your self a mom!  Strangers do not count as babysitters!  Neither do dogs!  You cannot possibly call that a “home remedy!” OMG, WTF, have you used your brain today?

All of the above are comments I have been holding in my head. (Yes, I do feel heaps better!)  I see, read, and hear the most shocking parenting on a weekly basis. Yes, I know I am a judgmental monster! But, alas, I am a judgmental monster with zipped lips… and it’s my opinion that is how we all should be. To Each Their Own… crazy, nutty whacky parenting methods… ; )


Two confused parents=One amused baby Hopelessly we are trying raise a baby who is clearly smarter than both of us. April is an award-winning writer and blogger. Her work has been published in over ten countries and four languages. From books to newspapers, to print/online magazines and everything in between, you can find her work. For more on April, Visit AprilMcCormick.com

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